Teen dating violence stoires
If he ever found out a boy had been near me he would instantly think the worst and beat them up.
I became tired of all this and I admit I was no angel throughout our relationship. I took beatings off my boyfriend at the age of 14, he would kick me on the floor, punch me in the face, he even broke my fingers.
I lost my virginity to him at a young age even though he was 2 years older.
However after about a year he became possessive, he wouldn't let me go out without him, he was constantly by my side, and always wanted to know who I was with and what I was doing even at school.
I wanted to support him and be there for him in any way he needed me.
I happily took on the task of making him feel loved and supported no matter what, it was me who was going to show him unconditional love.
One winter day during my junior year, I found out that he had cheated on me again. He became enraged as I walked away to my class but he didn't follow me. In that moment, I had two choices: I could either sit there and continue to be belittled in front of everyone because he wasn't going to leave, and nobody else was going to say or do anything, or I could walk out and be shamed anyway because I had given into his threats. As we walked down the hall, he spit in my face, pulled my necklace off my neck, threw it in the trashcan and he threw me up against the lockers. Mine is a story of emotional, psychological, and physical abuse.
The signs weren't obvious, especially to a 14 year-old, but it began with him telling me he didn't like the shirts I wore, or that my skirt was too short; at the time, it was easy to mistake jealousy and control for adoration.
It soon progressed to name-calling, insults, unfounded accusations, degradation, humiliation, and isolation.
I grew up in a household where violence was never an issue.
We never discussed it beyond the general basics most children learn, no one is allowed to physically harm you, make sure you tell us if you are being bullied, and never bully or physically hurt anyone else.