Asian parents interracial dating
When John first told his parents about me, here’s what his father said: “You can be friends with foreign women but not date them.” Anxious doesn’t even start to describe the way I felt after John said this to me. My previous relationship with a Chinese guy ended in an ugly breakup simply because he could never take me home to meet the parents. Growing up in a very white, very middle class suburb of Midwestern America did nothing to prepare me for surviving meeting the parents in China.He said his mom and dad would never accept having a foreign woman in the family. It’s the complete opposite from the casual way I used to shake hands and chat with a white guy’s mom and dad back in America, even on the first date!
So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married.
Across the table from me was a South Korean guy who had watched videos of me eating KFC during his time serving for his home country's national military.
He had told me that watching my videos made him happy and miss America.
Just realize you might be in for a very bumpy ride if the parents initially say “no” – the kind that could make the movie “Meet the Parents” look like kindergarten stuff. Like how I’ve heard some relatives praise John for being great at computers (because, of course, all Chinese are that way….).
Back in May, I ran a guest post from the blogger behind “Are you happy about those secrets? If only they knew that my husband calls on me for all things computer and tech-related. ) People have even expressed concern about the fact that John and I have a bilingual relationship, and have cautioned us against speaking one language too much over another.
Before you make any accusations of me making sweeping generalizations, note that my points here are completely biased according to my own sample size. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality. But, enzyme or no enzyme, don’t think this will deter an asian guy from schooling you in a drinking game though. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. There are many behaviours that are emphasized in a traditional asian culture.